February 08, 2005
Response to About Marriage
Jerz: STW II: Agenda Item 1-4
I personally think it's a lame excuse to say that the reason men want to get out of relationships in today's society is because they feel they are no longer needed to support the family. I really think men in America need to realize that women are infact equal. Women have jobs outside of the home and contribute to a family's income. That's not going to change. I really think in today's society, women would go crazy if they had to stay home all day. Women are educated to a much higher degree now. If you're going to educate a woman, you cannot just expect her to want to stay home all day cleaning. I am not trying to downplay stay-at-home-moms (or dads), but everyone needs to realize that it's not a crime if women want to get out of the kitchen and into the real world. Women have passions for certain things and want to learn about these passions and then put them to work by getting a job. I am sorry if this makes men feel unneeded, but seriously, women need to do what makes them happy. They don't need to put on a happy face and pretend everything's all right just so their "breadwinner" husband can have his pride. Society's changing, and men need to realize women are just as capable as they are.
Posted by CarolineJones at February 8, 2005 01:23 PM
I really do agree with you. I think that in any relationship that it should not be based upon positions (Who makes money vs. who stays at home). I think relationships should really be based upon trust and support. It's sad how many people are getting divorced, but why get married in the first place? Don't people talk anymore about what their dreams and plans are?
I agree with both of you. I also think that men should be present in the raising of their children. I feel that it will help the children become more stable individuals and they will have that sense of the adult male in their lives.
I agree with everyone that the father and mother should both be there to raise their children. If a father leaves I feel so bad for the kid, because they didn't get to pick who there parents were. They get into a family that the dad isn't mature enough to settle down. Don't get married and have children if you aren't ready to take a big step and put your needs second to your families needs.
I completly argee with you. I think the reading was supporting one women's view... It isn't true.
First off, I want to say that I do agree with you. However, you contradict yourself in the first couple sentances. The reason that men felt they were needed back in the day was because they were the sole providers. If women are infact equal (which they are), then why do men have to help support the family?
Jason- I see that you don't want to offend me. Haha. Men and women need to work together to help support the family. If as a couple they decide one person should continue to work while the other stays home with the children, that's a different story. In families, there doesn't need to be one person in charge of children and one person in charge of money. Both parents need to have roles in every area of their life together.