September 22, 2004
I wanted to make a comment about a discussion that started in monday's class. We were discussing, or arguing rather, if we thought Hester should have told Pearl the meaning behind the Scarlet Letter. I just wanted to relate it to something personal in my life.
My brother is 2 yrs. older than me, and we grew up in the same household. However, I always felt some distance from him. When I was in 11th grade I found out (accidently) through a family member that my brother was gay. I was so upset when I found this out, not so much because he was gay, but because he never told me. He said he had always knew. After we discussed it and I started spending time with him in social situations, I became really close with him. We are, to this day, very close and although he lives in NY, spend as much time toghether as possible.
My point of this story is that (although I feel Pearl was a little young at 7 to handle the complete story) Hester and Pearl could never really have a real mother/daughter bond with the secret Hester kept. I believe that is Hester would have told Pearl, not only would she know who her father was, they would also become much closer and understanding of each other. The letter was a wall built up between the two and there would be no breaking it until the secret was left out.
Posted by JenniferHaun at September 22, 2004 07:47 PM
I do agree with you that secrets do need to be shared in order for a real bond between the individuals can take place. I also agreed with you that 7 was somewhat of a young age to tell the child the whole truth. I work with children at this age and I really do not believe that they could first of all comprehend subject matter this deep in meaning and second if they did understand it be able to emotionally handle the truth.
I was wondering since we both agree that the age of 7 was somewhat of a young age to tell the child the whole truth, what age would you tell the child? Would it necessarily be an exact age or when you as a mother figure felt she was ready to hear the news? It is such a hard topic that I wanted to hear your point on the age that you feel would be appropriate. I am glad that we do agree on this topic, but I want to know your real opinion and when you feel a child such a Pearl would be ready to hear and cope with the news that Hester would have to give her. I hope to hear your answers!
I also wanted to thank you for writing this blog because it allowed me to be able to use another example to rationalize the topic at hand in the previous Mondays class.
This is always a difficult question about what ages are appropriate for certain things. It is just the same as when you should discuss sex with your child. I don't think anyone really has an answer. We all just do what we feel when the time is right. Children also mature at different levels. However, the way Pearl was very persistent in asking Hester over and over again, I feel she deserved some kind of explanation. Besides, children need to understabnd that people make mistakes. Hester made a huge mistake and what better a way for Pearl to learn than from her mother. An appropriate age to tell the entire truth would probably not be until Pearl reached early adolesence. But again, Hester could have said she made a mistake and she would tell Pearl when she was old enough to understand, rather than just ignoring her. Thanks for the interest in my comment!
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