I thought that this essay had a lot to do with how families will pull together in a time of need. This woman Ida complains how she is sore and doesn't "studying no needle and thread" yet she agrees to do so. Also during times of need families often bond the most and are able to share ideas and opinions and feelings with others.
"Y'all got to help me remember him good." Pg132. I really liked this quilt because eventhough she isn't thrilled with sewing after the death she still sews and in the end the women are together and are so interested that nothing else matters.
Agenda Item- Do we often forget what we have until we have lost it? Why does it take a tragic occurance to get family members apart? Even those who believe they are close? Do we really no longer have that close bond that are parents/grandparents had with their families?
To answer your questions Jen, in my opinion I feel that we do forget how much things mean to us after they are gone. Its amazing how much we realize how much more they meant to us after they have gone. I believe that tragic occurances can rip families apart because one member can blame the others for what has happened. It seems like a family points fingers because they they have no one else to blame. I think that in this day and age people are too busy with themselves to have that closeness with their families. They are wrapped in their own little worlds and do not see what is right in front of them.
Posted by: Kayla Lukacs at February 8, 2005 08:54 PMI do think that families forget how much things mean to them, because when a tragedy happens that makes a person put everything into perspective. I don't think this is how it should be, but some families are just very stubborn and won't put anything behind them. Tragedy can make a family split up or not want to see each other again. I think that people are too easy to blame. For example I know it would be hard to lose anyone I'm not saying that. Although if a person gets in a fight, things get out of hand, and someone gets hurt or even killed. I know that it would be hard to forget, but the family member that you lost would want you to move on with your life.
Posted by: Heather Chicotella at February 8, 2005 10:38 PMYes, I do think we do forget what we have until we have lost it. Why, I don't know it is something that I have been wondering about for a long time also. Maybe we might be able to find the answer.
Posted by: Jasmine Urgent at February 9, 2005 08:12 PMIn today's society, I don't think its possible for families to be as close as our past generations were. Our ancestors spent all day and night with each other, many of them in a one or two room shack. Our lives are filled too full with stupid little things for us to be that close with our family members.
Posted by: Jason Crighton at February 9, 2005 08:40 PMI see where you are coming from with families being closer back then. But i can't agree with it because my family is very close and i even think i am closer with my mom than she was with hers.
Posted by: Ashley Neil at February 9, 2005 10:28 PM