Get over it.
Mrs. Popov: I vowed to wear mourning to my grave and not to see the light of day...Do you hear me? May his departed spirit see how much I love him...Yes, I know, it's no mystery to you that he was often mean to me, cruew...and even unfaithful, but I shall remain true to the grave and show him I know how to love. There, beyond the grave, he will see me as I was before his death...
--Chekov, in Roberts, pg 385
Really? I couldn't believe what I was reading. This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard of. She's gotta be insane. I can understand mourning for the loss of a loved one, but vowing to never see the light of day again? Come on, let's get serious now. I don't know of anyone who loves me who would actually condone this sort of behavior while they are still alive, so what makes it okay to do it after they die?
She needs a reality check. She's really hurting the image of her husband by vowing to never get over his death, because even though he was cruel to here, if he really loved her, he'd want her to be happy--he'd want her to move on.