The one class I missed this term was the class Jerz missed. I heard about it thru blogging and hearing other people talk the next week.
I feel like I missed out on the class when Jerz had someone step in for the class. Everyone got to free write about their own experiences of being disciplined as a child.
It is amazing how much you really don't get to know a lot of people in your classes like Donald talks about in his blog. Then Renee B. also makes reference to that and how much fun it really was.
A lot of time I find myself so absorbed into all the activities going on in my life that I don't take the time to get to know others. I have always been an extremely shy person that has a hard time opening up to others. I usually just sit there unless someone talks to me. I am just so extremely shy. I always think maybe they don't want to talk to me or maybe they won't like me. I don't want to both people.
I guess I will open myself up and talk about being disciplined as a child. I feel that the reason I am so shy has to do with my childhood. My parents were not nasty people. They were very good parents that did the best they could. I do not come from money nor do I have it now. We were just the average family next door. I think I have always been so shy cause I was raised not to talk back to my parents. If I said anything that I was not supposed to say I got the regular paddling, sent to my room and grounded from my friends. This affected me because I was not raised to have an opinion on things. I was not raised to speak openly about what I thought.
How does this relate to Lily? I guess the most important difference is that I was shown love and Lily was not. Even though I was not allowed to be open, my parents loved me very much and did things for me and with me. They told me they loved me. Telling your child is one of the most important things you can do. Love is the most vital thing to a child. Lily did not have anyone to tell her they loved her. T-Ray barely showed her anything more than punishment. That is all Lily really seems to relate T-Ray to. Lily did not have her mom to love her. Her mom died before Lily had the opportunity to remember the love her mother had for her.
No matter how many times you may get punished as a child (depending upon what kind of punishment it is), as long as you are loved that will out weigh the punishment you have received.
Lorie, the more I hear about Dr. D's exercise, the more I wish I could have been there, too! I enjoyed reading your reflection.
Posted by: Dennis G. Jerz at April 20, 2004 05:46 PMIt is true you did miss a wonderful class. But do not feel as if you missed alot. We did get to free write however we couldn't really "free talk" like we are used to in Dr. Jerz's class. Instead of us just "free talking" we had to break into groups and figure out questions to ask the other class mates. Don't get me wrong it was fun but I really like how with Jerz we can just talk and talk and he doesnt really make us use a certain way like Dr D did.
Posted by: Teresa at April 23, 2004 11:55 AM