TammyRoberts

I am sure this nervousness still goes on today in some form. Though i am sure it wouldn't be the same. I think they were more scared of that night then they were about the rest of their lives. The nerves were causeing them to doubt their feelings now because they were afraid to fail and let everyone down. It is the build up to that one moment and when it comes time you hope and pray that you don't screw anything up. I can see maybe a little bit in how they are preparing for the future but i think the present is what they are basing everything on.

I agree that they are living in the momnet. The man in this story just reminds me of a little dog trying to get friendly with your leg. And she is the leg of a little child who is scared because she is unsure of what the dog is doing.

Tammy, great point about people in today's society probably not understanding the anxiety between the two about the wedding night. Just going on assumption, not a whole lot of people "wait" anymore and then it's not a big deal; nothing sacred. The jitters are common with anything causing anxiety, and can make people say things they don't mean, even to the point when they ramble on about nothing when there isn't anything to say. Sometimes when there isn't anything to say, saying nothing can be so sweet.

I said in another blog (Tiffany's, I think) that maybe if the two would've dated longer that they'd be more comfortable. Well, in thinking about it, I'm sort of changing that statement--I'd rather say that since society's views of "couplehood" and appropriate behaviors therein have changed drastically since the time the story was written, the couple probably seems really awkward and doomed from the start. But I'm sure lots of couples started off this way at that time... It's just more accepted now for couples to be closer sooner--and I don't necessarily mean just sex, either. Couples are more likely to be closer (it seems; in my opinion) now than they would've ever been able to be and still be respectable, in light of society, back then.

Good points Karissa!

I was just going to say that most people that were married during that time really didn't date at all before they were married. I knwo that my grandparents had an arraged marriage and that they also argued on their first night together because they simply just didn't know each other. It was that that caused them to argue and that made them nervous in the first place.

i think picking a fight with a spouse or boyfriend is a way women try to get attention from their partner. do you think so? or do you think i am wrong. please enlighten me with your many years of wisdom.